A Half Century’s Worth of Wisdom, Stupidity and Stuff…

  1. My grandparents were wise…wiser than their 8th grade education let on.
  1. I didn’t truly appreciate the sacrifice my Granny and Gramps made until I was a parent of my own.
  2. I can jump from the front seat to the back seat of a ’67 VW with lightning speed when a cicada flies in my 80’s hair and makes that “summertime noise”
  3. I really didn’t have a clue as a teenager.
  4. My in-laws dinner music became my dinner music…smooth jazz calms down a brood of 5 better than Ozzy Osbourne any day.
  5. Don’t hill hop on the wrong side of the road when you’re only 15. (Thanks Weff for letting me drive.
  6. Hot boxing is a real thing…done in my teens, understood what it really was in my 30’s. Seriously. (Thanks again Weff…)
  7. Drive In Movies are the best for…watching movies on the big screen of course.
  8. I learned the most during the rough patches but didn’t realize it until later.
  9. Being married is hard. Staying married is harder. But it’s all worth it in the end.
  10. Having a lot of friends is great but having friends that are REAL is the best.
  11. Never let your man Shark Sweeper your naked butt.
  12. Having a kid at 18 and having a kid at 38 are way different.
  13. Life is all about balance.
  14. Being a Mom is the hardest most rewarding job on planet earth.
  15. I can drive a dump truck when necessary…and get my man and his backhoe unstuck.
  16. I could have an honorary degree in pediatrics and psychology thanks to my kids.
  17. Holding my man’s hand still makes me feel safe.
  18. I can shoot a 9mm like a boss…call me Annie Oakley.
  19. I can chuck dead chickens a country mile when needed.
  20. But I can’t kill a wounded one…thanks Heather and Steve.
  21. Sometimes I over-analyze the bejesus out of things…well maybe all the time but I’m working on that one.
  22. Good stuff can come from our wounded places when we are vulnerable enough to allow God to use us.
  23. Most meanness from women comes from places of insecurity.
  24. When Grace is found, growth abounds.
  25. My body shape and weight do not make me the person I am.
  26. Little ones don’t stay little forever.
  27. Teenager’s don’t stay teenager’s forever…thank you Jesus!
  28. My job does not define me.
  29. There is much to be learned in the failures.
  30. I am not my past mistakes.
  31. I still hate clowns, crowds and carwashes.
  32. I DID have the courage to go to Africa!
  33. There are no monsters in the closest but I still can’t sleep with the closet door open…thank you Stephen King and your “It” book!
  34. It is important to “like” who you are married to and not just love them.
  35. God really is Who He says He is and can get you out of the deepest of pits.
  36. I watched stupid movies like “Cheech and Chong’s Up In Smoke” (at the drive-in) and turned out ok…
  37. My kid’s failures and successes do not fully fall on my shoulders.
  38. Hurt people hurt people and I have been both.
  39. Granny was right when she told me when I left at 18, church family IS important.
  40. Simple doesn’t mean easy; hard doesn’t mean complicated.
  41. God really does work all things…the good, the bad, and the ugly…together for good…I do love Him so…(Romans 8:28)
  42. I have mad corn hole skills…beating an 11 year old makes this so.
  43. The older I get the more I don’t care what others think of me. Whether that’s maturity or hormones, I’m not sure.
  44. We’re all a little broken but the mosaic God creates out of the broken pieces is BEAUTIFUL!
  45. Prayer is potent. Ask my family.
  46. It’s okay to let loose and be me…I’m not perfect but I am likable.
  47. I am stronger than I know and braver than I think.
  48. I am worth it.
  49. I am loved.


  1. When I allowed myself to be vulnerable and not ashamed of my past…those things I did (stupid or otherwise) and those things that were done to me…it opened the door for others to do the same. It allowed for REAL conversations to take place. It allowed for REAL help to be sought out. It allowed for REAL healing to take place.

“What makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful.” (Brene’ Brown)

So on this half century mark of a birthday, I’m thankful for those lessons. My prayer for the next 50 is I never stop learning and never stop growing as a person. I want to love well and forgive easy. I want to leave fingerprints of encouragement and hope. When I interact with others, I want them to walk away feeling more loved, more blessed and more courageous to simply be the beautiful selves they were meant to be.

Oh my word you guys! I’m 50!!


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