We were having my middle daughter’s wedding shower here on the farm. Several of her girlfriends were coming over so there were cars everywhere. When I opened the door to let one of them in, she was standing there with her dripping shoes in hand, feet soaked and muddy.
“Oh no! Where did you park?”
“Just right there. It’s ok. I just need a paper towel to wipe off my feet and clean up my shoes.”
We had had a lot of rain prior to the party and there are certain areas you can’t park your car. You’ll get stuck. Marais had no idea but I did. I found my man and he drove Marais’ car while one of the other girls used her jeep to pull her out.
As I was thinking this blog post through my initial thought was we often get stuck in places because we simply don’t know the danger of where we’ve parked. We don’t know the terrain. We don’t recognize the danger. While that is true, the thing that struck me is Marais was in a bad spot and still had no idea. She thought all she needed to remedy the problem was a couple paper towels. Anybody?
Unfortunately that’s not the only way we get stuck. I can’t tell you the number of times my man has come in needing my assistance because he drove too close to the edge of the pond that’s on our property. He knows there are certain spots that will suck him in if he drives close enough; and yet he does it anyhow.
Have you ever been there? Living life close to the edge of something that you know could suck you in to some bad stuff? Do you flirt with disaster?
And then there is the time when my man was once again out mowing and knowingly went through an area where he knew was risky. And he sank. He didn’t want to ask for help because he knew he shouldn’t have gone there. By the time he did ask, he was buried in mud halfway up his back tires. We managed to get him out but it took a lot of effort and a lot of mud was slung in the process of freeing his tires.
In all three scenarios a friend was needed to help get the person unstuck….no matter how they got there, no matter how stuck they were and no matter that they had no clue they were stuck and needed help.
I love the passage in Psalm 40: 1-3:
“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord.” (NIV)
We don’t know how the person got in this slimy, muddy, miry pit. But we do know that the Lord turned to the person when he heard them cry out. God reaches down when we reach up. Not only that, he set them on solid ground and put a song in their mouth!
Maybe you’re in a stuck place. Maybe you’ve been trying to remedy it with a couple paper towels not realizing just how stuck you are. Maybe you flirted with disaster and got sucked in. Maybe you knew the dangers and plunged in anyhow. No matter the how or the why you can get unstuck!
Cry out to the Lord and he will answer you! It may be in the form of a friend, a counselor or a group. It may be you need someone to walk with you as you climb out. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
I’ve been there. Sometimes I had no clue. I went to a friend asking for paper towels to dry my feet and clean my shoes and they recognized I needed more than paper towels. They encouraged me to seek counseling. And I did.
There have been other times when I flirted with danger and got burnt. I had friends help me through those times as well.
There have been times when I plunged right in to that slimy pit and stayed stuck for longer than need be because I was embarrassed and should have known better.
Each and every time, when I cried out, someone (and Someone) was there to help me. And the same holds true for you.
I want more than anything for us to live in the spacious places, the green pastures, the quiet waters that the Lord provides. I want us to be out of the slime and mud and mire of the pit. I want us to be on rock solid ground, singing a new song of freedom.
So let’s do this: Let’s agree to help each other.
When I come to you with muddy feet and dripping shoes and ask for a paper towel to clean myself up and you recognize I need way more than a roll of Bounty, don’t be afraid to say so. I’ll do the same for you!
When I come to you asking for help because I flirted with disaster and got sucked in don’t judge me; help me. I’ll do the same for you!
When I come to you neck deep in mud because I plunged in to where I knew I shouldn’t have gone; be my friend with some tough love and lots of grace. I’ll do the same for you!
Then we’ll throw a dance party like no other!!
Crazy about you!